A student has sparked a debate about whether she owes her mother’s work bonus, after learning that she had spent her university funds on a house renovation.
The student, who goes by the username u/bbburmah, detailed the situation in a post shared on the popular Reddit AITA forum. [Am I The A**hole] two weeks ago, in a post titled: “WIBTA if I asked my mother to share with me her bonus at work?
According to the grad student, their mother divorced their stepfather about a year before they started college at 18. A few years ago, their stepfather mentioned that he was glad they never struggled with money throughout school, due to the $15,000 he had allocated to school. child during the divorce settlement – a sum of money the student has never seen or heard of.
Throughout his schooling, the student explained that he never received financial support from his mother, since he left home at 18 and moved to a new country. Now they are working full time to pay off their student loans.
“My mom renovated her house while I was in college, and I never knew where that money came from, because she doesn’t have a very well-paying job and never had a lot of money. ‘savings,’ the Reddit user wrote. “That money was meant for me and she spent it without ever telling me. I’ve known it for about two years, but I’ve never spoken to her about it.
The child recently learned that his mother had received a backdated bonus of around $8,000 from her job, which she plans to spend on vacation with her current boyfriend.
“WIBTA, would I be greedy, would I be petty, if I told him I know the $15,000 and asked him for a share of his $8,000 to help me cover my student expenses?” they asked.
Since being shared on Reddit two weeks ago, the post has received more than 6,700 interactions and 533 comments from other users weighing in on the situation.
The post drew mixed reactions from commenters. Some believed the student was entitled to the $8,000 and encouraged them to consult a lawyer. Others felt that the person behind the post should confront their mother about the missing $15,000.
“I mean it’s fucked up all over the place,” one person wrote. “We don’t know what the ‘deal’ really was to give mom the money. If it were not a verifiable legal contract, it would be difficult to make it binding. If there was a contract, sue her.
Another person said: “You have to discuss the 15k with your stepfather, your mother and a lawyer. You are entitled to the money if it was legally set aside for you in the divorce. This alley plan isn’t the way to get it, but you’re NTA for wanting what’s rightfully yours.
The majority of comments suggested that the student would not have the right to demand the bonus from her mother, given that she had been underpaid by her employer for so many years. However, that doesn’t mean they can’t find out about the missing fund for colleges.
“NTA to be upset. But you can’t share his bonus with him. Stepdad should have given it to you straight away if it was for you,” one Reddit user said, while another person commented: “YWBTA for demanding his bounty. But it would be perfectly reasonable to ask about the divorce education allowance – mention that dad mentioned it to you, and you weren’t aware.”
In April, an architect asked Reddit users if he was wrong for telling his husband and in-laws they were “delusional” expecting him to work for them for free. In March, Reddit users urged a woman to divorce her husband after questioning whether she had been wrong to show up at a restaurant where her partner’s family was dining, despite not being invited .